Monday, 8 November 2021

Worst advice I ever received

 This topic from Long and Short Reviews took a bit of time, as initially I was trying to think of writing-based advice and couldn't think of any - other than "You don't want to be writing romance, it's crap!" which obviously I didn't end up listening to.

The advice that kept coming to mind was from my teenage years, when my friends and I went to university. Our parents were full of advice about men and nearly all of it was wrong.

"Don't go to university with a boyfriend. You'll be broken up within six months. " (That friend is now married to him.)

"You were right to stay single. University is for meeting lots of boys." (That friend was engaged within a week of arriving on campus and they're still together.)

And my favourite one was from my dad after I broke up with my ex - I like to think he meant well, but telling a broken-hearted nineteen-year-old "You may as well get used to it, because it will happen again and again for the rest of your life," is not the best way to make her feel better.

If you're wondering, I met my husband two months later and we've been married for fourteen years.

So what's the worst advice you ever received?

4 comments:

  1. Its true, right? When it comes to relationships, everyone is an expert.

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    1. Oh yes - everyone has an opinion, and it's usually wrong. I try to avoid giving opinions on relationships for that reason.

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  2. Yep, mine had to do with a relationship, too. I didn't go into all the nasty details but if you want to read the jist of it is here: https://rewritingkel.wordpress.com/2021/11/10/worst-advice-i-ever-received/

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    1. People are full of wrong advice about relationships.

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